New Year, New Paths

Happy New Year beautiful humans. For many of us, 2021 felt like an incubation period. An elongated moment beckoning that our inner presence come to consciousness through introspection. What if the last two years was an opportunity to pull apart the entangled parts of us? And, the product of this space created was an opportunity for celestial dreaming?

Indeed, the tools we have been given that tether us to Global Codependence are akin to an attempt to lull an infant to sleep by screaming a lullaby. We are residing in an age of inflammation. This state is not due to us being born sick and needing to be saved. But, rather due to conditioning; a bought-and-sold transaction leading us to believe that Global Codependence is normal; that peace is found in external sources. The parts of us that get pushed do not just go away. They ferment and heat up within our bodies causing said inflammation and then, eventual disease.

We are multifaceted beings attempting to find wholeness, but doing so with a one-dimensional lens as we erroneously believe we are a single unified whole. In fact, the center-point from which our creativity is born stems from the mysterious, forbidden, irrational...the hidden parts of us.

The Barn Events - as we they have organically and lovingly been named - are a salve to this chronic Codependence. They are less about deep, arduous inquiry and much more about connection, warmth, honesty...love.

This connection, just like us humans, is multifaceted. Being the most social animal on the planet, we truly do feel safest among others.

The most profound part of these Barn Events, however, is about a connection to remembrance...a remembrance of the True Self. Our society bogs us down in social conditioning so that we begin in early childhood to forget who we are. So we begin to fracture, fragment, hide, suppress and repress emotions, dreams, ideas and our Self.

When I dream of my utopian community, I think NOT of a group of people who are always happy. I dream of a tribe where we are taught healthy ways in which to be in relationship with strong emotions and feelings (both mine and yours). We are not told to put away anger, resentment, self-pity and hurt.

We are, in fact, given a safe space in which to bring forth all the parts of us that were pushed away and were left to live in the marrow of our bones, the organs, the muscles, facia and skin of our beautiful bodies. This community would use nature, movement, animals, animals, the breath, music and vibration as a point of reference to remember what has been forgotten. These practices would slowly and naturally awaken the inner pharmacy we were born with. We would grieve in the witness of a sacred mirror - an experience many of us were never afforded but deeply yearn for.

Relationshipping events are 2-hour to half-day intensives that dive deep into inquiry the of Self.

These events were inspired and born from the psychological concept that we must be in right-relationship with our Self before we can be in relationship with others. For how we relationship with our Self is how we’ll relationship with the rest of the world.

Our lives are one big relationship: Self, others, animals, food, nature, earth, cosmos, etc. We are always Relationshipping. All of us yearn to be in intimate relationships but we tend to get sidelined by unconscious behaviors. Until these unconscious behaviors are met and greeted, we will tend to continue on the (oftentimes) habituated dysfunctional path.

Relationshipping gatherings are designed and curated to offer education, tools and practices that allow participants to slowly and gently access the parts of us that get pushed down and hidden out of protection. In a safe, playful and healthy setting, participants get to practice this newfound way of interfacing with their True Nature in a group setting, and perhaps, find their soul’s purpose!

The life-force that would drive these events would be radical presence. The teachers within these communities would safeguard inner presence as if it were the most valuable thing in the world. Trust of these leaders came through action and integrity.